The fear of being a mother and unintentional childlessness
When women are unable to have children or decide not to, this is still looked down on in our society. Apparent "functioning" involves having a family, being successful in one's career – and ideally also in the context of a happy relationship. This illusion of the "ideal family" with at least one child is supported in our society without women really asking themselves why they want something or why not.
When a woman consciously decides against becoming a mother, she often gives reasons, which have something to do with objective factors, such as career planning. Rarely, and then only very late, is it acknowledged that because of traumatic experiences she is afraid to have her own children and accompany them as they develop their lives. It is the fear of embracing her own feelings, the relationship and the bond with a child due to traumatic experiences in early childhood or even pre-birth.
My workshop is concerned with the question of what happens in a woman's body if she fails to become pregnant despite her great desire to have a child. Often there are no medical explanations for childlessness and there are actually no evident obstacles to pregnancy. In my practice, I have accompanied a number of women who are trying, or have tried, desperately to bring about a pregnancy using all the medical possibilities available. There are now fertility centres and many more facilities and the message conveyed is that everything is possible. It is mostly not considered that the woman's body and her psyche use all the means available to counteract this, and no one asks why this is so. If we approach this subject using the intention method we invariably find a traumatic experience in early childhood.
In this workshop, we will also examine to what extent the topic of "stillbirths and miscarriages" affects this subject and where there are overlaps. After my theoretical introduction, there will be an opportunity for one intention constellation.
Cordula Schulte, born 1952, married, 2 children, 2 grandchildren. Naturopath for psychotherapy with my own practice in Essen (single and group therapy). Lecturer and seminar leader (DPS). Since 2009 continuous training and supervision in Identity-oriented psychotrauma therapy with Prof. Franz Ruppert, co-author of "Early Trauma". Psychotherapy Practice in Essen.