Healthy Autonomy

The Helper Syndrome: Your needs = My Needs

Help is important and the basis of our social co-existence. Selfless action is highly regarded in society. "Selfless" captures the problem with the helper syndrome: Without an own "I", the helper disappears in the "you" and ensures the survival of others. Recognition for self-sacrifice does not make it easy: do we want to help or do we have to help? Therein lies the difference between healthy aid and traumatic conditional need to aid. In many social and therapeutic occupations, helping and lack of clearly defined boundaries are the cause of burnout syndromes. The dilemma of the compulsive helper is unsolvable. The attempt is always to relieve the misery in the wrong place. In every encounter with a new "you", the helplessness from their own childhood is projected. What was absent in childhood: to be unconditionally loved, protected and wanted. Instead, the child had to help the parents, who need the child for their inner emotional security. This is how the child learns from the beginning to satisfy the needs of the parents: I have to be there for you so that I am loved. This need to help creates emotional security and disguises one's own powerlessness which remains for the rest of one's life. Idealized by helpers and society, their own trauma remains unrecognized and constantly re-enacted. This can result in becoming a perpetrator, infringing help, which is unasked or unwanted, up to, feeling victimized, complaining that no one perceives or dignifies self-sacrifice.

The workshop deals with the causes and effects of the helper syndrome in contrast to healthy helpfulness on the basis of case studies from the IoPT. A work with the sentence of intention clarifies these connections.

Workshopmaterials can be downloaded here.

Ruth Kuczka, MA phil., 53 years old, a non-medical practitioner in her own practice, focus on IoPT in individual and group work, body therapy (HNC), homeopathy, kinesiology; Many years of professional experience as a teacher for difficult adolescents and an own daughter, nurse, palliative companion, and ZDF editor.

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Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises

Can we meaningfully support the IoPT in resolving the split between body and psyche from the physical side? Our first split is between body and mind. It is not without reason that fitness studios are booming as a survival strategy. Dramatic consequences of this first split: Body trauma therapy does not automatically heal our psyche, and IoPT does not automatically resolve our embodied traumas. How do we treat it therapeutically? In support of eliminating the split between body and mind, our workshop - based on the IoPT - offers self-use "Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises" after intense IoPT constellations. The participants in the workshop envision a trauma that has appeared in their own IoPT constellation and then specifically focus on the physical level. They learn to use the self-healing powers of the body to directly shake off the trauma energy of previously envisioned trauma - which were already processed with the IoPT-traumas.

Margrit Senn, identity-oriented therapy based on the concern method (Prof. Franz Ruppert), TRE (Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises after Dr. David Bercelli), Authentic communication - The adult human, child and horse (Klaus F. Hempfling), Communication / Presentation (Dale Carnegie Trainings amongst other things), Team Dynamics and Moderation (Jens Wiedmann), Energy Work (Zarah Flaschberger, Academy for Awareness Development, etc.), Naturopath schooling Verimeer.

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Ewald Dietrich, graduate pedagogue, Gestalt therapist, personnel and organizational developer, educated amongst other things, in various forms of constellation work, non-violent communication and positive aggression. Presently, and with increasing pleasure, I am encountering myself with the help of the IoPT and open these possibilities also for others. I like to experiment with the inclusion of other methods that fit, for me, with the IoPT.

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